FAQs about sexuality and gender

Is it normal to have sexual feelings for same sex people?

Yes! Of course! It is not only normal but also common. Many people, not just people who identify as LGBTQ have sexual feelings for members of the same or similar gender or sex. Sexual feelings and fantasies provide a way for a person to explore their feelings, curiosities, and desires. Feelings do not need to translate into actions unless you're comfortable with that.

If your attraction to the same sex continues, have comfort in knowing that many people feel the same way as you. If you have concerns and /or would like to talk about these feelings contact:

Gender identity - I'm confused about my gender. Who can I talk to?
How do I know if I am gay, lesbian, or bisexual?
Sometimes it takes time to understand your sexual orientation. Some people know their sexual orientation at a young age, while others know later in life. An individual may prefer not to label their orientation since they may also be trying to understand their sexual identity. With time, you may even change how you identify your sexual orientation and that's ok too!
Someone told me that lesbians are not likely to catch sexually transmitted blood borne infections (STBBIs) - is this true?
Definitely not true! STBBIs can affect anyone, regardless of who you are having sex with. Infections such as herpes and genital warts can be transmitted through simple skin to skin contact with an infected partner. Other STBBIs, such as Chlamydia & gonorrhea can be transmitted through sharing sex toys.

Protect yourself and your partner. Order free condoms and dental dams at the Sex It Smart website.

Do lesbians need to have pap tests?
Absolutely! A pap test (swab taken from the cervix) screens a woman for cervical cancer. Any person who is or have been sexually active with a cervix should have cervical screening at the age of 21. Pap tests are recommended every 3 years unless otherwise indicated by a health care provider. For more information visit the Cancer Care Ontario website.
How can you tell if someone is gay, lesbian, or bisexual?
In short, you can't. A person's profession, appearance, mannerisms, income, or political views are all unrelated to their sexual orientation. Labeling or judging others based on stereotypes is not ok!
What is homophobia?
Homophobia is the fear, dislike, aversion, intolerance, and ignorance of homosexuals and homosexuality.
What is transphobia?
Transphobia is the fear, dislike, aversion, intolerance, and ignorance of transgender people.

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